This is the question that runs through my head every night as I try to fall asleep.
When do we know that we are doing enough for our children?
With Miss B in particular...
Am I doing her "homework" with her enough?
Did I talk to her enough today?
Did I play with her enough to today?
Did she get enough exercise time?
Did I relax enough with her?
Did I sign with her enough?
Did I sing to her enough?
When is it enough?
And then there a zillion questions about T-Man and Fearless too...
Did they each get enough one-on-one attention?
Did I teach them enough today?
Did I play with them enough?
Did I laugh with them enough?
Did I say yes enough?
Did I say no enough?
Did they get enough exercise?
Did they get enough sleep?
In general, I think I'm adequate as a mom; but wouldn't it be fabulous to be more than "adequate"? To be able to walk that thin line of teaching my kids independence and ingenuity and some plain ol' "Figure It Out" skills while at the same time being everything to them? And not only just being able to walk that line...but to KNOW that I am walking that line so I wouldn't have to worry that I wasn't? (Hopefully this is all making sense!)
Not that I wouldn't have worried about "enough" before with the boys, but with Miss B...there are just so many little things that if I don't do "enough" could have some seriously major ramifications later on.
Take the pincer grip for example...for most kids it just happens...but for Miss B...we've been working on it and working on it...and breaking it down into so many smaller parts (who knew there was a inferior pincer grip?!? and a tip pincer grip?!?) and that she needs to learn each one well to lay the foundation for all of her fine motor skills--writing in particular--later on.
So if I blow it off now, it could be years and years before my daughter will be able to legibly write her name.
But then, maybe it will be years and years before she can write her name legibly anyways?
Or maybe she'll bust out writing her name like a pro by age 4--with or without being able to pick up a Cheerio perfectly.
Who knows??? I certainly don't.
The Golden Birthday
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